Day 1

Genesis 3

Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”

The moment you start misquoting the scriptures or misinterpreting the scriptures, you have started the trip down to backsliding. Eve did and took herself and her husband to spiritual lostness.

Look at verse 6,

“When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.”

No wonder she misquoted the scripture… for she was attracted to the forbidden fruit. Then in verse 7 we read:

Verse 7. Then the eyes of both were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.

Please note three things the devil will use to get you into sin;

• Number one, the tree was good for food. … the devil puts a hunger for something
• Number two, it was pleasing to the eye. … the devil makes something or someone attractive.
• Number three, it was going to help him gain wisdom. … devil knows we all need to be thought clever

In other words, you ask yourself, ‘If I have sex with her, it will be simply joyful. I know these days there are condoms to prevent any risks. I will use condoms to protect myself and her. She is not going to get any disease, I am not going to any disease. She will not get pregnant’… the hunger for sex experience will draw you into it.

Day 2

Genesis 3

2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, 3 but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’”

So the issue is what I see is good to meet my sex craving… hunger. Yet she can’t get pregnant. And I will feel nice. It becomes irresistible. That is, if you allow your life to be driven by desire for pleasure.

My friend, the moment you are driven by pleasure; you may not yet be in sin, but you will soon be there. Christians don’t do things because of pleasure. It is not the Christians motivator. Pleasing the Lord is our motivator. Delighting the Lord is our motivator.

Psalms 37: 4, “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

It is not your flesh but your heart that drives you. Why? Because you have that desire inside that you should make God happy with whatever you say, think or do. So the moment you start feeling like you have a right to pleasure… you start to the wrong direction. If your pleasure becomes the driving force, you will soon discover yourself doing things which you could not have imagined you would be doing.

You need to understand that a Christian is totally a different person from others. A Christian is a person who has chosen himself to become a servant of the Lord Jesus Christ in all ways and at all times. That means what I do, I don’t do it because I want pleasure, I do it because I want to honour God.

It means I cannot do something good for myself, but it will put me in trouble with the Lord. I have written a book called INTEGRITY – The Litmus Test of GOOD LEADERSHIP. A lot of corruption issues you see started from a desire to please oneself. I have been doing management consultancy work since I retired. If I am quoting for a business, and then the person says, can we talk? If I feel like if we talk: I will be able to get the money, I will be able to tithe more. I can now go to more missions. GOD, it makes sense! My driving force is becoming the money I will get. I will end up in corruption. It is the same thing with sex attraction.

Day 3

Psalms 37: 4,

“Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

You need to come to where your driving force is to honour the Lord. Psalms 37:4 is saying once you delight Him, HE is going to meet your heart’s desires.

In other words, you want to be married so that you can be a team to serve the Lord, but in the process there will be sex. Sex is not the driving force for marriage. It is that you want to make a team to serve the Lord. Am I clear?

So the moment you have the wrong reasoning like Eve had, oh it is good for food or Oh I enjoy seeing it! That’s the same route to hell. Oh if I sleep with her I will feel nice. She is good for sex need. Oh but you know the way she is dressed! Ha-ha, even God understands the way she is dressed. It is good to see. So I cannot stop myself.

And then obviously if I am seen in the company of this girl, she is figure 8 I will be admired. Now she is such good girl, everybody will think I am great. And that’s the way you end up in sin.

The other problem that comes out is that is thinking that God is not seeing you! Adam thought the same. You know they did it, they ate the fruit. When God came, they were hiding. But God is omnipresent. Omnipresent means He is everywhere at the same time. Is there a place you can hide in the garden? No!

That ignorance is how you end up in sexual immorality. You feel like nobody saw. They cannot imagine it. No wonder, last night you were involved in it, and you are leading the worship service today. Last night you were doing it, and you are giving a fake testimony today. Because you think nobody knows except the two of you. Nobody knows you cheated.

Day 4

Genesis 3

9 But the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” 10 He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”

You do not live life righteously for the human audience. Those ones cannot know. But God was with you. Three people saw you doing it;

• God
• Devil and
• You, and your girlfriend. Okay, the four of you.

But God is omnipresent. You cannot hide from God.

And the moment you are conscious of God’s presence with you anywhere, you will not end up in sexual sin. But these original parents, Adam and Eve, thought they could hide. They tell God… Oh I just saw you coming and I hid. Just shows their lack of understanding of who God is. The God you can hide from is not worthy worshipping. The real God is with you in every corner you can go to.

And then next we learn how sin continues. Because you have already fallen but instead of rising, you are trying to hide. No! My brothers, repent. Some of you are reading this you have been sexually active before marriage, the solution is not to say I am holy, the solution is to admit God, I am sinful. Forgive me. On my own I cannot manage but help me never to repeat it. I want, from this time, I want to stop.

Day 5

Genesis 3

6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it

That way you get what is called secondary virginity. In other words, I lost the first virginity but now until the wedding day, I will never again be involved in sex. Help me God! And He is a forgiving God.

It does not matter that you have been involved in sex. If only you repent and not hide, tell God to forgive you… He will forgive you.

And why I call it secondary virginity? It is because God will treat like you have never had sex once he forgives you even if the girl is pregnant. That is how forgiving He is. It is true you have done it. In fact, they hear your testimony and say, Haiya! How can Akeko cheat us? I saw her. It is true you saw her but Akeko has repented. She now has secondary virginity.

That’s what Adam did not understand. So he hid. See 1 John 1:8-9,

8 If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

If you say you have not sinned you are lying to yourself. Because God knows the truth. Instead if you confess your sins, He is faithful and just to forgive your sins and cleanse you from all unrighteousness. All unrighteousness includes perverted sex. Am I right?

So the solution is admitting your sexual sin whether physical or done in the mind. And remember repentance is not just saying sorry. Repentance is first treating what you did as wrong to the person you did it to. Number two, as wrong to God. Number three, committing yourself never to repeat it.

Day 6

Genesis 3

8 Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden.

In other words, repentance is not repentance if you intend to repeat it. Repentance is when you say, I have done it. I have done wrong, I have no intention, with your help, ever doing it again. You feel hatred for what you did.

It means if we have been meeting with my girlfriend in my room, we will now be meeting at somewhere where everybody can see us. Next time she comes to my room; I will keep the door wide open. Then she will say, what is wrong with you? Why are you leaving the door open? Because I don’t want the devil to come as you even come.

Now you need to understand that shows you have made a commitment to walk in righteousness. I am calling it secondary virginity. You will be a virgin before God because He cleansed you. He cleanses us from all unrighteousness. And it is important to accept that.

But that’s not what these Adam did. They were hiding. In Genesis 3:12,

“The man said, ‘The woman you put here with me – she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.’” Then the woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

In other words, some of you instead of repentance, you say, but God you know… It was really not me. I resisted, but he kept pushing. God what was I to do?

The truth is, according to the scriptures, if somebody tries to sleep with you against your will, you shout.

In fact, in the Old Testament they say, How come nobody heard you shouting? If you actually ended up in sex, although you were saying, “No.” some brothers think “No” means “Yes” that girls don’t know how to say yes. Only a loud shout will get him running away.

Now you need to understand when it comes to issues of sex, when your boyfriend is pushing, you don’t start negotiating. Oh no! You slap him early enough for him to wake up for his own salvation. You are not slapping him so that he goes to hell, you are slapping him so that he goes to heaven. You are not shouting to mention him as people come. It is because if he continues you will end up in sin. Find a way of waking him up from his sinful feelings. Find a way of coming out of the room yourself as Joseph did to Potiphar’s wife.

But he might break the friendship for good after you embarrass him. My friend, please understand that where your boyfriend was manufactured, the factory is still on. God is still manufacturing other boys. Let him go.

You should never argue, haiya! If I lose this sister where will I get another one? Do you know the manufacturer is still in business? So whether the girl drops you, be aware the manufacturer is still at work. Am I communicating? So you don’t joke around with sin.

Day 7

Genesis 3

13 Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?”

The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

This lady Eve and this gentleman Adam are passing on the buck, instead of admitting. They say the other person is to blame. The boy argues… But you know given the dress she was wearing, God, I am human! What was I supposed to do? The truth is you saw it and after you saw it, you knew there might be trouble. Instead of running away from your room and leaving her there, you continued looking at her shortened dress. You are as guilty as judged. Don’t defend yourself. Of course, she will go to hell for her own sin in putting you into sin but you will be in the same hell with her for not running away. You will not be asking whether it was you or it was me. But you will be in the same hell the same temperature. It will not matter who started it!

So you need to come out of even the similitude of sin. Don’t be like Adam and Eve saying she did or he did. It is irrelevant. Both are equally guilty. And the only solution is coming to repentance individually.

But given this Bible reading is well known, let me ask the question; but why is there so much sexual immorality? This thing is actually terrible and getting worse! It is even there in church. Have you heard of pastors involved in sexual immorality? And sometimes the lady coming for help, is a lady who had a problem with her husband. She is coming for advice. She ends up being involved in sex.

Oh! you know the pastor is so nice! He really wants to comfort me. He even moves from the side of his desk to come and hold me so that I can cry on his arms. How loving unlike my husband. He will comfort you enough and you end up in sin. Why? He is out of touch with the spirit of God.

How come perverted sex is everywhere? Why is it happening?

Number one, I think one of the causes is the increased breakdown of the marriages. Some of you reading this come from the broken homes.

So sometimes you wonder now as an adult is it worthy marrying? But the trouble is you say is it not worthy marrying and yet you want sex. And you see according to the scriptures the only way you can get sex is to marry, yet you wonder is marriage worthy it! Why? Your parents’ marriage failed.

Please understand something. You and your parents are two separate people. You need to understand that the fact that the marriage of your parents broke does not determine that yours will also break.

If you are Christian you know God loves you yourself. If he calls you to marriage, he will keep that marriage. The Lord is able.

I give testimony because I got married in 1979, this is over 45 years together with Rebecca. And I know the Lord can make the marriage last despite relational challenges along the way.